Does love really change who we become?

[Nous]

i keep thinking about this: maybe love isn’t a destination or a possession but an influence. a force that changes your shape. that helps you become. and when it’s gone, it doesn’t mean you’ve lost it. it means you’ve absorbed it. the people who leave don’t take it with them. they leave it behind in you.

love is about transforming. about leaving someone better than you found them, even if you had to leave. and i hope i’ve done that. i hope somewhere, someone is still listening to a song i showed them. still laughing at something i said. still drinking their coffee the way i do. we don’t belong to each other but we do belong to the versions of ourselves we became in each other’s presence and in that way, we never truly lose anyone.

 

[Lee]

Love this. I like to think when we are in love we share all of ourselves, good and bad with the other person. We can use this to make unbreakable bonds, but also we can use it for nefarious purposes.

My wife knows me better than I know myself. She can spot when I’m down in the dumps before anybody else, before even myself.